Yes, yes we are!
The question becomes how deep are the wounds? Is this person able to be in a healthy, whole relationship? None of us wants to find ourselves falling for someone who cannot find his or her way to healing.
And if WE are that person, can we see how we might be able to view the world differently? Move beyond that which stops us?
There are so many people with stories of pain and despair. Some are sinking into a hole while others are finding their way out. What makes some people more able to find healing for themselves?
Because they know they can!
You cannot change another; you only have control over your own thoughts and actions. It is up to you to become the person you want to be with. We do attract that which we are.
One of the many books I love is, The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz. He says if you live by the following four statements you can transform your life and feel freedom, happiness and love. Of course the book explains these statements in detail but perhaps you can see just how profound each of these statements (agreements) are:
1 – Be impeccable with your word
2 – Don’t take anything personally
3 – Don’t make assumptions
4 – Always do your best
Seems simple, yes? Not so! I work very hard to pay attention to my actions and my words. I believe, with all that I am, if I can live by these agreements I will always do and say the right thing. Alas, I am but a mere mortal and so I fall; sometimes for a moment, sometimes for days. But I always find my way back to this place I like to call GRACE.
At first you may have to pay attention to your actions so often it will make your head want to spin off; and then you must do it some more. In time our actions become more aligned with who we want to be and so we are not bombarded so much. Yes, Grace indeed!
This next statement is very important, pay close attention. We MUST forgive our past – this is so crucial. As long as we live in our past hurts (from others or ourselves), we will never find peace. Those who have “hurt” us have been hurt too. It really isn’t personal.
As we get better at being who we want to be in the world we will no longer allow ourselves to be in the presence of those who treat us disrespectfully. We will find freedom, rather than pain, in setting them free.
It is all about how you FEEL. Choose to feel good, know your value. It is our birthright to be free, at peace and yes, even joyful!
It is my intention to post a page of resources for personal growth, as well as for couples that need help. For now here are some Authors to take a look at. They all have websites and offer free information and show video clips etc.:
Don Miguel Ruiz, Dr. Wayne Dyer, Marianne Williamson, Neale Donald Walsch, Esther and Jerry Hicks (Abraham)
Now get to it – claim your birthright!